By Biko Agostino
Before I was born, the ancestors
sent a beautiful angel to be my guardian and to love every spot that my feet
would touch on earth. She was probably four or five years old when I was born
and she was already baby-sitting our nephew who was born six months earlier.
She ran back home when she heard the news of my birth (our mother had suffered
several still births and infant mortality before). Big sister wanted to be my
baby sitter. But one look at me and she said, what an ugly baby, and fled back
to babysit our nephew who was more plump at six months than scrawny little
caterpillar-like me. She later told me that our favorite uncle bought me
powdered baby milk and started calling me Nwa
Bekee or child of the white man even though I was as dark as coal. He told
mother to take special care of me and never to leave me alone with big sister
all day while she was at the farm or he would beat her to make her cry like the
baby me (we lost him in the war and so he did not live to see his prophecy
fulfilled).
Later she returned to be my
babysitter and to be my guardian angel. She agreed to quit elementary school to
be in charge of me as a baby. She taught me how to write the number 1 on the
dirt floor of our mother’s bedroom. She laughed when I wrote a big number 1
that almost covered the whole floor and she taught me to make the stroke
smaller to fit into a wooden slate or exercise book line. She taught me my
catechism and made sure that I did not accept sacrificial chicken meat from
Papa’s shrine because it was the food of sinners, nri ndi ome njo. But when I refused injections for malaria because
I believed that God would cure me, she told me that the medicine was given to
us by God to make us well. When I questioned whether the herbs that Papa used
to cure dysentery were fetish, she said that they were herbs created by God for
our use. She was the only child that Papa showed all his healing herbs and she
became a healer.
When the Biafra war broke out and
we became refugees, she would insist that she could carry all the loads that
mother could not carry and she allowed me to carry only the lantern and the hen
that I was given to raise. The hen made too much noise and one adult took it
and wrung its neck to avoid exposing us to the enemies. That night, we had
chicken soup. When the enemy troops approached, we fled again with our little
belongings and I carried only the lantern. We were suddenly separated and I ran
ahead only to realize that I was alone among the crowd of refugees. I stopped
and waited in the hope that mother and sister were coming behind and shortly,
they caught up with me.
Mother was too proud to stand in
line for relief to be given to refugees, she preferred to go hunting for crabs
and vegetables. Big sister was the one to go and get rice uka nwajata, garri Gabon,
salt fish, stock fish, and powdered milk for us. She could not get powdered
eggs because she had no kwashiorkor but our younger step brother was a bit
swollen and so his mother got those yellow egg powder that made his elder
brother to taunt me and say that I could have gotten some egg powder if only I
had kwashiorkor too. My sister said not to mind such foolish talk.
Papa got seriously sick with
diarrhea and used his last savings to buy buckets of garri and share to his two
co-wives the way he rationed yam daily before the war. Once our mother cooked
soup with some strange mushrooms but said that we would not eat it until the next
day to see what it would look like. It foamed all over the pot the next morning,
so she threw it away as poisoned. Sometimes she seasoned the soup with roots
that tasted like chicken. There was a goat that was dedicated to Ani, the earth
goddess, but the priest who took it into exile reminded everyone that we could
not even beat it even if it ate our yam. The enemies approached again and we
fled back to our farmland where we could harvest yam, cassava and vegetables
while fish and mollusk from the river kept us well-nourished until the enemies
swept past us and we returned to our home. Big sister carried me on her back to queue up for medical attention at the Town Hall when I had a big lump on my neck. A passing Red Cross official saw me as I was sweating and almost fainting while waiting in the hot sun and carried me in her arms to get me urgent attention with so many injections that I lost count. Thank you Red Cross. Thank you Nwa Nne m, child of my mother, for saving my life.
Once, Ndi Red Cross saw me
hawking vegetables from mother’s farm. They spoke through their nose with an interpreter
to say that they would buy all the vegetables that mother could supply. When I
told mother, she said that her farm was not capable of yielding daily supplies
of vegetables for the hospital. Papa laughed and said that they were not asking
her to grow it. She could buy it in bulk from the market and supply to the
hospital for a small profit.
It was big sister that took over
the purchase of the vegetables and the supply to the hospital to earn the extra
income that helped us to recover quickly from the losses of all our ante-bellum
savings that the government only exchanged for twenty pounds per family at the
end of the war. She also collected water and firewood for cooking and sometimes
had to abandon her heap of firewood to escape rapist enemy soldiers who tried
to catch her. One such enemy soldier got drunk and came to harass the child as
she was mashing palm nuts with her feet for palm oil and as she pushed him off
from the tree log ikwe akwu, the hand
grenade on the waist of the soldier fell into the palm oil without exploding.
It was after boiling the oil that the bitter taste told us that something was
amiss. We fished out the unexploded but spent grenade from among the rocks
added to the pot. The soldier came crying to say that he would be punished if
he did not account for the grenade. We gave him the empty shell and threw away
the spoilt palm oil.
Strangely, two uncles who
returned from the war as ex-Biafran soldiers took it into their heads that
supplying vegetables to the hospital meant that we were collaborating with the
enemies as saboteurs. They came to beat us up and one of them tried to
demonstrate with the neck of our mother how they were experienced at killing
someone without firing a shot. Luckily, big sister was just pounding foofoo and
she let the pestle fly at the head of the uncle who stumbled and nearly fainted
before freeing mother from the stranglehold. I challenged one of the uncles to
send for one of his brothers who was the same age with me so that I can fight
it out with him. He did and I pounced on the poor cousin and threw him about
like a doll in our harmless wrestling match. Big sister was a fearsome
wrestling champion and she had taught me how to lock the arm of my opponent
under my armpit and how to throw the person down easily. When I fought with my
sister, she let me win and ran away from me because I was a cry baby. Once a
bully tried to make me cry and my sister wanted to fight the bully after school
but she swung like a girl and the bully landed a punch on her mouth to make her
gums bleed. I was embarrassed and decided that I would never let her fight for
me again.
When a teacher came to live with
us as a tenant, she said that big sister was very smart and offered to pay her
tuition fees if mother agreed. Papa said that he would pay the fees if mother
would buy the books as usual. But mother said that she needed the extra hands
on the farms to stop us from starving and told Papa that the fees were the easy
part that she would happily swap with him so that he would buy the books and
the clothes and medicine and pocket money and Papa said that the fees were what
fathers paid. Big sister obeyed mother and tried to arrange some evening
classes that did not go far. When she got married to a trader, the seventy
naira bride wealth paid to Papa was not enough to give me hope of taking up my
admission into high school, just four years after the war. Papa sold one piece
of choice land for 400 naira and told me that it was to help pay my high school
fees but he also bought a bicycle for my brother from his other wife who was
said not to have the book head. I got the message, I could not go to the books house, uno akwukwo, or school, to
fool around instead of excelling at being a good book child or nwata akwukwo, a student, who possesses isi akwukwo or book brains.
Earlier when my brother and I
were expelled for school fees two years after the war, Papa said that he would
give us the fees if we went to the farm with him for two school days to earn it
and we did, thereby learning that books are sweet-sweet but they are expensive
to learn and those with patience will learn books if their father and mother
had money. Luckily, a year into our high school, the government abolished
school fees and supplied spring bunk beds with mattresses so that Papa only
paid 40 naira as boarding fees to spare me from having to attend as a day
student in a distant town. Once I was suspended for participating in a protest
and my mother and big sister came to pledge that I was going to be of good
behavior before I was allowed back.
When I finished high school with a
First Division result, I got a job as a clerk with a construction company. I
used my first salary to buy new wrappers for mother and for big sister and a
suit and sandals for Papa. Our father’s other wife saw the gifts and exclaimed
that she did not know that book learning could yield profits. She had sent her
two sons to learn trading and she quickly recalled the younger one and sent him
back to school. Our big sister supported us and I also supported the younger
brother (who became a newspaper editor with a degree in history and politics) and
our younger sister (who achieved a Diploma in Accounting and a Master’s degree in Business Administration and is an entrepreneur).
When I gained admission to the
university to read Sociology, I had only 200 naira saved from my job as an
auxiliary teacher. Big sister told me that she could give me 200 naira every
semester from her profits made from selling bananas and groundnuts by the
roadside. She also made soda soap and chin-chin snacks for sale. With that, I
was able to cover two years in the university but my own little savings ran
out. An uncle stepped in and matched the 200 naira bursary from big sister with
200 naira of his own and that was how I came to complete my university
education.
Once big sister quarreled with
her husband because the man did not like farm work as much as my sister. As a
result, the yam collection that he inherited from his father was depleted. Only
the yam collection that my mother gave to my sister as part of the wedding
presents remained and her husband wanted her to turn the remaining yam over to
him because yam is a man’s crop. Sister complained that he would neglect them
and they would disappear just like his own collection of yam. I told sister to
let him take over the yam and instead concentrate on trading to support her
family now that her husband’s provision store had also collapsed. She said that
she did not have money for trading and I gave her 600 naira from my savings to
get her started before I went abroad for further studies.
When I sent her small amounts of
money to build a house for me, she stretched it so much that the house became
the kind of mansion that I had promised Papa as a child when he asked who was
going to make sure that his barn would always be filled with yam. I told him
not to worry about the barn because the mansion we were going to build would
eat up the barn. I never remembered this exchange but big sister told me that
she got the chills when the foundation was laid and the barn was completely
covered while the house rose to three floors, just as I had promised as a
child. She reminded me that when Papa asked where I was going to get the money
for such a mansion, I told him that I was going to get it from the land of the
white man just as I did.
Every time she said that her
trading capital was exhausted, I gave her more money so that she did not have
to go outside the family to borrow. With her ability to order sacks of corn and
beans, yam and groundnuts from the northern part of the country and pay through
a bank transfer for the delivery by trucks, she stopped making the treacherous
journey to the north. With her little profits and with help from me, she was
able to educate all her children with one being a mechanical engineer, another a
mathematics major, another a medical technologist, one nurse, and two teachers
while one son followed her into trading. Her first son is married to a nurse
and the three daughters are married to traders. She was transferring her trade
in foodstuff to the son who learned trading as an apprentice with the nephew
who was born before me (who is now a big investor with a Master of Business Administration to his name).
My sister tried for my family and
for her own with the little blessings that she had. I had plans for her and
just a week before her collapse and death possibly from heat stroke in the
farms, I was pleading with her not to go to the farm alone again but she said
that she usually went with her little house help. We were planning for her to
go back to school but she was busy molding cement blocks to build a bigger
house for her family, having paid for the construction of the mud house that
they now live in to move them out from her father in-law’s one room
accommodation when she was newlywed.
She had high blood pressure that
she was managing but help did not reach her in time and she did not regain
consciousness for days in the hospital. I want to say thank you to my beloved
guardian angel who still watches over me from above. I am proud of all her
achievements on earth and her love of fellow human beings. I wonder what I
could have done in this wild world without the child who is more valuable than
money, Nwakaego.
All our plans for her to retire
from trading and farming and go back to school full time will now be shelved.
She wanted a lady’s motorbike but I said that it was not safe and asked her to
learn to drive a car. She laughed and said that a child asked her father for a
bicycle but the father promised her an aero plane instead. I laughed and told
her that her father had a car waiting for her. She was a powerful actress, dancer and singer who
performed memorable plays like Okenufo at the church concert when we were
children. I was going to record all those fairy tales she entertained us with
as kids but never got around to it. Sister Maria will be sorely missed and will always
be loved. Angels never die!